Dressing for a Nigerian Wedding When You Are Not Nigerian

Aso-ebi is the cloth the family chooses for the guests. Being asked to buy into it is an invitation into the family's side of the day, not a fundraising exercise, though it functions as both. Pay for it without complaint.

Turning up in the aso-ebi colour without having bought the cloth is fine at a large wedding and noticeable at a small one. If you are unsure, ask whoever invited you — the question is never rude.

Do not wear white unless told to. Do not outdress the couple. And take a second outfit if the invitation mentions a reception change, because people will.

Arrive expecting the stated time to be aspirational, and expect to be fed. Bring cash for spraying — the money thrown over the couple during dancing — in small notes.