Fatou Diallo
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Antenatal education spends forty weeks preparing you for one day. Almost nothing prepares you for the twelve weeks afterwards, which are harder and longer and where most of the damage gets done.
Expect to be physically wrecked for longer than you have been told. Six weeks is a bureaucratic number attached to a GP appointment, not a medical prediction. Many people are not themselves at four months.
The single best predictor of how the fourth trimester goes is whether somebody is feeding the person who is feeding the baby. Arrange that before the birth, in specific terms, with named people and actual dates.
Ask for help with the house rather than the baby. Everyone wants to hold a newborn; almost nobody offers to do your washing, which is what you actually need.
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